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Di Indonesia, mitos ayam berkokok tengah malam sudah lama banget jadi bahan obrolan, bisik-bisik, bahkan ketakutan kolektif. Katanya sih, itu pertanda sesuatu yang “nggak biasa”.  Secara turun-temurun, ayam yang berkokok di jam nggak wajar sering dikaitkan dengan hal mistis.  Ada yang bilang itu tanda akan ada musibah, kabar duka, bahkan kehadiran makhluk tak kasat mata.  Nggak heran kalau banyak orang langsung pasang mode waspada. Apalagi kalau tinggal di kampung atau daerah yang masih kental dengan kepercayaan tradisional.  Ayam jantan yang biasanya berkokok pagi hari, tiba-tiba teriak tengah malam? Fix, bikin suasana jadi horor tanpa perlu film hantu.  Tapi di balik cerita-cerita mistis itu, sebenarnya ada juga penjelasan yang jauh lebih masuk akal. Ayam, khususnya ayam jantan, punya “jam biologis” yang sensitif banget sama cahaya dan suara.  Cahaya lampu kendaraan, kilat petir, atau bahkan lampu rumah yang nyala mendadak bisa bikin ayam salah kira wak...

Being alone gets a bad rap. The moment you say you’re spending time by yourself, people assume something must be wrong—like you’re sad, broken, or secretly waiting for someone to “save” you from loneliness.  But here’s the real plot twist: being alone doesn’t automatically mean you’re unhappy. The problem isn’t solitude itself. It’s the story we tell ourselves while we’re in it.  If your inner voice keeps whispering that everyone else is moving forward while you’re stuck on pause, of course being alone is going to feel heavy.  But once you change that narrative, being alone can actually feel calm, grounding, and even kind of powerful.  A lot of the sadness that comes with being alone isn’t about the present moment—it’s about comparison.  You scroll through social media and suddenly everyone seems busy, successful, loved, and surrounded by people who “get” them.  Meanwhile, you’re eating alone, walking alone, thinking alone. And your brain jumps to the wors...

It sounds kinda wild when you say it out loud, right? We live in a time where you can DM someone across the planet in seconds, jump into group chats 24/7, and scroll through endless stories of people hanging out, laughing, living their “best life.” On paper, loneliness shouldn’t even exist anymore.  And yet… here we are. A lot of people feel painfully lonely despite having friends, followers, and nonstop notifications.  Not the “I’m bored” kind of lonely, but that quiet, heavy feeling that shows up when you’re alone with your thoughts at night.  One big reason is that connection today is often wide, but not deep. You might talk to a lot of people every day—replying to messages, liking posts, reacting with emojis—but those interactions rarely go below the surface. “How are you?” turns into “I’m good” by default, even when you’re not.  Nobody really wants to be the person who ruins the vibe by saying, “Actually, I’m struggling.” So everyone keeps it light, funny, and ...

Living alone sounds cool on paper. Your own space, your own rules, no one stealing your snacks or judging your sleep schedule. But then the silence hits. Hard.  Suddenly, the freedom you were so excited about starts feeling like a big, empty room that echoes every thought you’ve been trying to ignore.  If you’re living alone and feeling empty, let’s get one thing straight first: you’re not failing at life. You’re not “bad at being independent.”  That emptiness usually doesn’t come from being alone itself—it comes from the lack of small, grounding moments that remind you that your life actually has rhythm and meaning.  When you live with other people, those moments happen naturally. Someone asks how your day was. You argue about what to eat. You hear noise, laughter, footsteps.  When you live alone, you have to create those moments on purpose. And yeah, that sounds like work, but it’s also where the magic starts.  One habit that changes more than people rea...

We live in a time where everyone is technically reachable 24/7. Your phone buzzes, your apps refresh endlessly, and somewhere out there, people are posting highlights of their lives like it’s their full-time job.  Group chats are active, stories are uploaded every minute, and yet… somehow, you still feel alone. Not the dramatic, movie-style loneliness. The quiet kind.  The kind that sits with you at night when you’re scrolling in silence, wondering why being “connected” doesn’t feel the same as being connected.  It’s confusing, honestly. How can you feel isolated when you’re surrounded by so many digital voices?  The thing is, modern loneliness hits differently. It doesn’t come from having no one—it comes from feeling unseen.  You might have hundreds of followers, dozens of contacts, and a calendar full of notifications, but still feel like no one really gets you.  Conversations become short replies, emojis replace real emotions, and “let’s hang out soon” ...

There’s a special kind of loneliness that hits when you open your phone, scroll for five seconds, and suddenly it feels like everyone is booked, blessed, and busy living their best life. Group chats are quiet.  Your messages get replied to hours later with a casual “sorry, been hectic.” Meanwhile, you’re sitting there thinking, Did I miss a meeting where everyone decided to move on without me?  That feeling can mess with your head fast. It’s not just being alone—it’s the perception that you’re the only one standing still while the rest of the world is speeding ahead. First things first: what you’re experiencing is way more common than people admit. Most people are not actually thriving 24/7. They’re just really good at showing the highlight reel.  Social media doesn’t show canceled plans, burnout, or the nights people stare at the ceiling wondering if they’re doing life “right.” When everyone else looks busy, it doesn’t mean they’re fulfilled.  It usually just means ...

Feeling lonely in your 20s or 30s? First of all, take a breath. Seriously. Because the moment you start feeling this way, your brain loves to jump to wild conclusions like “Something must be wrong with me” or “Everyone else has their life figured out except me.”  Spoiler alert: that’s a lie your mind tells you at 2 a.m. when you’re scrolling through Instagram and comparing your behind-the-scenes to everyone else’s highlight reel.  Loneliness in your 20s and 30s isn’t a personal failure—it’s basically a side effect of being alive during this phase of life.  Here’s the thing nobody really warns you about growing up: adulthood doesn’t come with a built-in social structure. When you were younger, friendships were automatic.  School, college, clubs, shared schedules—boom, instant community. But once you hit your 20s and 30s, that structure disappears overnight.  People move to different cities, change careers, get married, have kids, or just become wildly busy and em...